Goals Are How You Become Yourself
What Co–Star Just Taught Me About Coaching
This morning (OK, let’s be honest - this afternoon…because I was doing #OtherSh*t!), I opened my Co–Star app and saw a message that stopped me in my tracks:
“Goals are how you become yourself.”
It felt simple — but true in the kind of way that lands in your chest, not just your brain.
As a board-certified health coach and someone living with chronic illness, I’ve thought a lot about goals. The tension between what we want and what our bodies can sustainably support. The ache of having dreams that feel far away. The grief of adjusting — and the empowerment of redefining.
And I’ve come to believe this:
👉 Coaching is not just about achieving goals. It’s about becoming more fully yourself through the process of pursuing them — gently, intentionally, and with support.
Why Health Coaching Is So Supportive for Chronic Illness
For those of us navigating chronic conditions, traditional goal-setting can feel alienating. The “just do it” culture doesn’t leave room for flares, energy crashes, executive dysfunction, or medical trauma.
Health coaching flips that script.
It asks:
What does your body need today?
What’s one thing we can try that honors your capacity?
What’s working, and how can we build on it?
It’s not about fixing you — because you’re not broken.
It’s about supporting you in becoming more resourced, more aware, more compassionate toward yourself as you move forward.
Coaching isn’t a magic wand. But it is a powerful container — one where you get to be heard, witnessed, and empowered to experiment with what healing means for you.
If this resonates and you’re curious what coaching could look like, I’d love to invite you to two gentle next steps:
🧭 Book a free Strategy Session
We’ll talk about your nervous system patterns, wellness goals, and what support could look like.
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Whether or not you’re chasing big goals right now, you deserve care. You deserve support. And you deserve to move toward the version of yourself you’re becoming — at your pace, in your way. (And in case you’re wondering, becoming is a constant process…you are ALWAYS becoming, the way nature is always moving through cycles. Sometimes that becoming is also an UNbecoming. And I’m here for all of it, no matter what you need.)
With softness,
Lauren
@ChronicCoachLauren