✴️ When Rage Becomes the Only Thing That Makes Sense
Don't Give Up
There are days when rage feels bigger than my body.
And I know I’m not the only one.
Many of us are moving through life right now with an undercurrent of fury — a deep, vibrating sense of “this is not okay” that sits just beneath the surface. It makes total sense. We’re watching policies pass that feel violent in their implications — stripping away access to healthcare, sustenance, safety, autonomy.
We are not imagining this.
We are not “too sensitive.”
We are responding appropriately to systems that were never designed to protect us, or to serve us optimally (we all know the prevailing group for whom these systems are designed).
So let’s name the truth:
This isn’t just burnout.
This is your nervous system trying to survive under sustained pressure, grief, and uncertainty.
A few years ago, I might’ve stayed stuck in the pendulum swing — between rage that felt explosive and numbness that made me feel like I was disappearing.
But now, I don’t live in that loop or get stuck for too long.
Because I have tools.
And I use them.
🌀 Here’s what that looks like for me:
Noticing when I’m starting to disconnect — and reaching for sensory input or gentle movement to bring me back (lately, I’ll even grab a die from my DnD set and roll it between my hands to feel the slightly sharp edges - just to give myself some immediate sensory feedback)
Validating my rage, not judging it — and giving it expression in safe, structured ways (I’m not much of a journaler, but shaking, breathwork, sometimes swearing into a pillow - real talk!, and somatic movement/dance like practices from SAH really help)
Shifting my internal state through regulation before I spiral — so I can choose response over reactivity (regular walks in nature, grounding, phoning a friend and creating intentional connection time)
Letting myself feel sad without collapsing (leaning in and knowing that this, too, shall pass)
Remembering that the goal isn’t to feel “better” — it’s to feel more like myself again
This is what I teach. This is what I coach.
And this is what Sam and I are holding space for in our next Recharge Room:
💥 BIG, BEAUTIFUL B*TCH SESH
🗓 Monday, July 21 | ⏰ 5 PM PT | 🌐 Zoom
🧠 A rage + regulation space
✨ Free, virtual, and made for real bodies in real overwhelm
…and you can probably tell what the name implies ;)
This space is for you if:
You’ve felt furious, hopeless, or frozen in the face of recent political and systemic harm
You’ve struggled to stay engaged without falling apart
You need a space to breathe, feel, rage, and not perform
We’ll guide you through grounding practices, hold space for release, and offer a soft container for optional community conversation — no pressure to speak, ever, but this will be a good one to contribute to and we will stop recording for personal shares!
💡 Why rage AND regulation?
Because feeling angry is part of your humanity.
But learning how to metabolize it — not suppress it — is part of your resilience.
Because if we want to keep showing up —
For our people, for change, for the world we want to build —
We need to be well enough to stay in the work.
Regulation is not compliance.
Regulation is not bypass.
Regulation is how we stay in our bodies while we fight for our lives.
I’m not swinging between fire and freeze anymore.
Because I’ve learned how to come back to myself —
And I want that for you, too.
Come sit with us.
🔗 RSVP for BIG BEAUTIFUL B*TCH SESH
Even if you just want to be in the Zoom room with your mic and camera off, drinking tea, feeling a feeling.
That’s enough.
You’re enough.
With care from the fire,
Lauren